Soul Sculpting Project: Put Some Awe in Your Day

  Soul Sculpting Project: Put Some Awe in Your Day I had taken one step out of my front door into the night when I froze in awe. The Milky Way stretched from from horizon to zenith and beyond. A wing of the Milky Way, that I seldom notice, spread out distinctly. Every light in…

Soul Sculpting Project: Loving in Conflict: De-escalation Skill

Soul Sculpting Project: Loving in Conflict: De-escalation Skill Quiz: What three-letter word increases a conflict? What one-letter word decreases a conflict? The three-letter word is ‘you’. It works like this. We are running late and we call out, “We are going to be late! Again!!! You always move so slow on Sunday. You just don’t…

Soul Sculpting Project: Loving in Conflict

Soul Sculpting Project: Loving in Conflict Roll back to the 1970’s. You and your spouse enter the lab room. There are comfortable chairs, recording equipment, and health monitors (heart rate . . . ). Your assignment: For 15 minutes work on solving a conflict in your relationship. When you finish Dr. John Gottman and Robert…

Soul Sculpting Project: Design a Habit

Soul Sculpting Project: Design a Habit Behavior change is hard business. If it was easy we would have already made the change. Brother Lawrence wanted to make a change in his behavior. For him the change was in how he connected with God. Instead of the on and off connection with God that he had…

Soul Sculpting Project: Don’t Give Up Yet!

Soul Sculpting Project: Don’t Give Up Yet! The odds are against us. If you made a New Year’s Resolution you have a 8-10% chance of success. That is 90-92% odds you will not keep it. And what’s worse —  we are nearing the third Monday in January. This the day when the drop out rate…

Sculpting Project 23: Connected For Change: Week 2

Sculpting Project 23: Connected for Change: Week 2 I walk into the room and notice my friend. A small part of my brain dedicated to reading facial expressions detects a slightly sad expression. My brain then signals the muscles in my face to imitate the expression I am observing. My facial muscles now form this…